The way that a person with dementia experiences the world is not always based in our current reality. Probably one of the most heart-wrenching yet profound experiences you may encounter is a phenomenon called time-shifting. It isn’t just not remembering what day it is; it is a total immersion in a different era of their life. As an example, maybe you are sitting together at the dinner table, and abruptly, your older loved one believes they’re a young adult waiting for their parents to come home. It is disorienting for them and may be equally baffling for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.
What Is Time-Shifting in Dementia?
Time-shifting takes place when someone with dementia feels as though they are living in an alternate moment in their past. Beyond reminiscing, it is a deep, genuine belief that they’re currently in that particular timeframe. For them, the present moment fades, replaced by intense memories that feel as real as today. They may call out for individuals who passed away years ago or speak about events that took place decades earlier like they were happening now.
The Best Ways to Handle Time-Shifting Moments
When time-shifting occurs, it is natural to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they are here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this method often triggers confusion, frustration, or even distress. As an alternative, try becoming a part of their reality. Validate their emotions, understand what they are expressing, and react with empathy. If they are worried about an appointment with their parents, for example, you might say, “It sounds like you really care about being on time. Your parents must have meant a great deal to you.” This reaction can offer comfort without the jarring reminder that their parents aren’t around anymore.
Making Connection Through Their World
Time-shifting is often an opportunity to create moments of connection with the individual you love. Make inquiries about the period of time they’re immersed in, such as, “What is something you’re excited to do when your parents get home?” Questions like this can prompt storytelling that engages them while offering you a richer comprehension of their past. You could hear stories you’ve never heard before or learn details that bring you closer.
Taking Care of Yourself
It is vital to recognize that time-shifting could be exhausting for you emotionally. Seeing a person you love drift into another time and place can make you feel helpless. Make certain you have support, whether from family, professional resources, or friends. Joining a support group for caregivers may also give you helpful tips and camaraderie from other individuals who know what you are dealing with. Remember, you don’t have to do this alone.
Our Dementia Care Experts Are Here to Help
Though we understand how hard it is, time-shifting moments offer a view into the life experiences that have shaped your loved one. And we’re here to help you each step of the way in caring for someone you love with dementia. Our professional care specialists are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to help in University Park, Highland Park, Lakewood, and throughout Dallas/Fort Worth and the surrounding areas. Contact us at 214-295-8213 for a free in-home meeting to learn more.